Lynn | Online Relationship Therapist and Couples Counsellor

Registrations

• BACP - The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
• TCUK - Therapycounselling UK

I offer therapy in

• ✓ English

Specialisations

1. Main Goals of Couples Therapy:

• Understand yourself, your partner, and your relationship dynamics.

• Break ineffective patterns and create better ones.

2. Individual Responsibility:

• Focus on improving your own behavior rather than trying to change your partner.

• Set personal goals for therapy; the therapist is there to help you achieve them.

3. Challenges and Trade-offs:

• Building a healthy relationship takes time and effort.

• Emotional and energy comfort may be challenged, requiring vulnerability and persistence.

4. Effective Therapy Participation:

• Reflect on your objectives before each session.

• Avoid reactive discussions; focus on long-term goals rather than current problems.

5. Key Attitudes:

• A positive attitude toward change is more important than just knowing what actions to take.

• Accept that you and your partner are limited in how you can respond to each other.

6. Communication is Crucial:

• Effective communication requires respect, openness, and persistence.

• Focus on what you can do to make your partner more responsive to you.

7. Growth Through Conflict:

• Disagreements and conflicts help relationships grow if managed well.

• Focus on learning from conflicts rather than avoiding them.

8. Self-Improvement:

• Becoming a better partner is the most efficient way to improve the relationship.

• Learn from what annoys you and how you handle those feelings.

9. Prepare for Sessions:

• Reflect on what you want to achieve before each session for more productive therapy.

10. Ongoing Effort:

• Change requires sustained effort over time, and both partners need to be committed to growth.

Most common issues I support people with:

1. Communication Issues: Difficulty in effectively expressing thoughts, emotions, and concerns. Miscommunication or a breakdown in communication can cause frequent arguments, misunderstandings, or feelings of disconnection.

2. Infidelity or Trust Issues: Rebuilding trust after infidelity or dealing with other forms of betrayal can be complex. Couples often seek therapy to navigate the pain, rebuild trust, and explore whether the relationship can move forward.

3. Life Transitions: Major life changes, such as the birth of a child, career changes, moving house, or retirement, can place stress on relationships. Couples therapy helps partners adapt to these transitions and maintain a strong connection.

4. Emotional or Physical Intimacy Problems: Struggles with physical or emotional intimacy, including differing levels of sexual desire or emotional detachment, can lead to relationship dissatisfaction. Therapy can help address these issues and foster closeness.

5. Conflict Resolution: Couples may find themselves stuck in repetitive, unproductive patterns of conflict that escalate quickly or never reach a resolution. Therapy can teach healthier ways of managing and resolving disagreements.

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