Michele | Relationship Coach & Therapist

Individual and Couples Relationship Coaching Bramley - Guildford

My name is Michele, I am a Professional Certified Relationship Coach and Mentor. I am also a qualified psychotherapist.

I work with high functioning, (often over thinking) successful men and women who know there is room for more in their love life. Compared to their business or career this is usually an area of their life that falls short of their desires and standards for themselves. 

The main reason that they are struggling in their relationship is because the polarity between them and their partner has slowly but surely been declining. 
 

The lack of polarity is why the majority of couples in long-term relationships experience recurring conflict, avoidance, hurt and waning physical and emotional connection. Men and women are not supposed to relate to each other in the same way but societal conditioning is doing a very cunning job of encouraging this and as a result creating disconnection and unhappiness.

Healthy polarity fundamentally involves a completely new relationship with your feelings. Most people are either numbing, trying to get rid of or trying to manage their feelings in a way that is dysfunctional and only serves to create more dysfunction. This is why so many people find themselves stuck in the blame game in their relationship never realising their innate power to create huge change. 

You have everything it takes to create the relationship you really want. A relationship where you feel heard and where you know you are deeply loved and cared for: where you are able to navigate life and the difficulties it can throw at you together as a team.

We are not taught how to create deeply loving and connected relationships.  We must learn how to undo our conditioned patterns of behaviour and thinking, so that we can show up in healthier ways for ourselves and our partner. 

I help my clients move beyond these patterns so that they can create a consistently loving, connected and intimate relationship over the long-term. I give them the tools to empower themselves and teach little known information about how men and women need to relate to each other in order to meet their differing needs. 

I use a number of cognitive and somatic modalities that address the mind and the body. The body is a hugely powerful tool that is underestimated when it comes to transformation.  This is where radical self acceptance and trust are born but because we are conditioned to live in our minds, we end up doubting ourselves, being highly critical of our partner and never feeling that we are able to create the change we desire.

Unfortunately society sets us up to sabotage our love lives and we deeply fear being rejected for who we really are, which is why so many people are hiding in their relationships: hiding behind conflict or avoidance. As a result of this work you and your partner will have a healthy foundation or structure to come back to time and time again that will help you move beyond the default patterns that are keeping love at arm's length. 

I welcome and invite you to this life changing and relationship transforming work.