Depression - Tips

In general, thinking about a problem is a very useful way to find the solution for a problem. But sometimes we keep on thinking very hard to try and force a solution to come that is just not there yet. This creates a kind of thinking that is more like worrying and it seems like you do not control your thoughts anymore. Many people have this.

Here are 3 anti-worry-advises

1. Stop your thoughts
When you notice you are worrying, say STOP IT to yourself. You can visualize a symbol for that, for example a traffic light or a traffic sign that says STOP. Then think of something funny and also make a symbol for that. For example a nice holiday memory.

2. The 'hair band'
This simple method will help you to release yourself from thoughts: Put a hairband on your wrist. Every time you notice you are thinking too much, pull the rubber band. The little pinch will get you out of the thinking loop. Then think of something nice again.

3. Worry-time
Allow yourself to write down all your worries. For that time, don't do anything else, just concentrate on writing down your thoughts. Set the alarm for fifteen minutes, choose every time the same place to sit down for it and just allow your thoughts, without talking drinking or eating. When the alarm goes off, you immediately stop writing. Then go and do something nice.

Facial feedback
Research has shown (Strack, Stepper & Martin, 1988), that a positive facial expression creates a positive emotional experience. So, a smile can have a lot of influence on your emotional well being.

Experience it yourself:
Put a smile on your face and keep it there for 20 to 30 seconds. Then relax your face again. Repeat this 10 to 20 times and see if you feel suddenly more positive.

Even better: Do this exercise in front of a mirror so that you can experience what psychologists call 'facial feedback': your emotions start to resonate with your facial expression.

Find distraction and do 'fun stuff'

Try to keep on doing 'fun stuff'. You can think of things that you used to really enjoy before the depressed feelings started. Often you feel a little bit better afterwards.

When you do nothing while you feel depressed, you will get even more down. You will keep on thinking and worrying.

Make a list of the things that were (or are) relaxing for you and make some time for this. Even when you don't feel like actually doing it yet. The joy in your life will gradually find its way back when you pick up your life again.

With a Body-Scan meditation (check youtube) you practice conscious breathing while you focus on the body. As you know, body and soul are connected. Feelings are in the body and not in the mind.

A relaxing Body-Scan is also a great gift you can give yourself everyday: a relaxed mind in a relaxed body. Do it! You will notice it will make you feel better.

Practice mindfulness.
Look with a mild, gentle and friendly attention to your depression.

Accept that the depressed feelings are there, without identifying with them. You are not the depression, you have the depression.

By approaching yourself and your depression in a gentle manner, you can relax deeper and then your feelings can become soft too.

Don't escape your depression by using alcohol or drugs. It might seem like a way out and it seems like it makes you feel better. But it is not a solution.

On top of it, it might create an extra problem: an alcohol/drug addiction.

Also escaping your depressed feelings by emotional eating is not a solution.